A scapegoat is great if you are not the scapegoat.
What do you do psychologically when you respond to a fierce event with painful reactions to some other poor soul, to be punished for the right and proper punishment. It leaves the discomfort in your abdomen – until the problem returns and the cycle begins again at the point where someone finds it new.
When in a small group, "harassment". In large organizations, we call it a "defective culture". Countries are often the cause of war. Personally, you can only keep a personal eye – but do you know when it will happen to you and acknowledge and accept what you need to do to get rid of it?
The scapegoat is the creation of a "escape goat" that is bound to the ground by the predator to escape the others in time – once the tribal survival tactic is deeply embedded in human social behavior
Wonderful method until you're the scapegoat, huh? But there is another twist on the tale. In their defense, older generations have shaped the way for the younger, builder members of the tribes to elevate their privilege: this heroism is called.
I did not knock heroism; You just have to say you have to be careful not to go to the hero in a situation where you do not fully understand what's going on.
Heroes sacrifice themselves for the better. This is okay as long as you survive the sacrificial opportunity (ie kill a beast or beast in some other way), you will get the bigger you own.
What if you're sacrificing You've got enough of your life, or you've been on the line for a long time, is the "bigger" the one you get from those you risk? Take care of this and make sure that you do not sacrifice yourself as a sacrificial lamb if you strive for a person or person who does not want the same good things as you want the "beast" for you. For many dysfunctional families, for example, Beast is the family's norm of behavior.
To avoid every member of the family facing the pain In their own inner world, aggressive families sometimes call "black sheep". As the worst family member, they see all of their sorrowful sins being entrusted to the person, avoiding the inside of the predator (painful feelings). Scapegoat rewards this process by making it very important; If not notorious. There is a lot of attention from this process, which is better than the previously ignored.
I remember working a couple of years ago with a young man where other family members came (two Full Generations, uncles and aunts) and all of them talked about his concerns. As they said, family members criticized each other about how they dealt with it, and past arguments came up and resumed. Glittering eyes, whimsical remarks, complete works. He would have thought he was on the verge of a violent criminal proceeding.
The young man sat passively and intelligently answered the questions (still according to his family, who was a little whimsical and unpredictable) and when I talked alone, he was very easy to be with him. He turned to the family storm – it was the family scapegoat. These things can go on for years, and finally, if you're the scapegoat, you start believing the hype at Unconscious level. Here's what to do if that happens to you:
You can not find it easy.
The first reason is, Unpleasant design in many areas – financially; logistically; legally. It may take a few years for you to simply move away (the young man you talk about, leaving your family a few months later.) The second reason may be difficult because when they realize that scapegoat has escaped from other members, that the scapegoat will return and continue.
Scapegoats can be useful for a number of reasons – they are more likely to be people and as such are very useful in financial and other ways; They are making great absorbent bags that take full responsibility for the destruction of heroes.
I saw that many people, different generations and types, play a scapegoat and are seriously emotionally ill
In their heads, they justify this treatment with a self-expression like "do not know what they are doing" , Or "one day will understand" or "do not really mean".
They know exactly what they are doing. You do not understand. They mean everything they say – you just do not listen. You are still here?
What a great person you are, huh? He's a scapegoat.
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